Making Your Blended Family A Success

Making a blended family a replica of your first family, or the ideal nuclear family, can often set family members up for confusion, frustration, and disappointment. Instead embrace the differences and consider the basic elements that make a successful blended family:

  • Solid marriage. Without the marriage, there is no family. It’s harder to take care of the marriage in a blended family because you don’t have the time to adjust as a couple like in most first marriages.
  • Being Civil. If family members can act civil towards one another on a regular basis rather than ignoring, purposely trying to hurt, or completely withdrawing from each other, you’re on track
  • All relationships are respectful. This is not just referring to the kids’ behavior towards the adults. Respect should be given not just based on age, but also based on the fact that you are all family now.
  • Compassion for everyone’s development. Members of your family may be at various stages of development and have different needs. They may also be at different stages in accepting this new family
  • Room for growth. After a few years of being blended, hopefully the family will grow and members will choose to spend more time together and feel closer to one another.



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